It’s been a month since I’ve written a post. I didn’t mean for that much time to fly by but it did. September brought the start of school for my youngest son who is attending a new high school this year. He’s also the last of my 4 to graduate so this is a big year, and even more shifts for me. It means a bit earlier mornings but the drive is shorter and most importantly, he’s happier.
A few months ago, he went through a rough patch with a huge growth spurt which left him feeling tired, worn out, low energy, and around 6-feet in height. He missed a bit of school due to illness for a few days which got him behind in some of his classes. He also had a tough time communicating with a teacher which left him feeling like he could never back on track. If you’ve ever gone through a rough patch in your life in any way, you know that you can often feel depressed, overwhelmed, and lost – which may make you feel emotions like sadness, anger, or feelings of not being good enough or that things will never get better.
One day, I noticed how depressed my son seemed to be. So I sat him down and asked him if he was happy. He admitted he wasn’t. Instead of telling him what I thought or felt, I asked how I could help him. He told me about being behind in school, how tired he was, how he didn’t know how to get everything done. I felt for him. I’ve been there a few times in my life, and while I had to learn how to get through it, I chose to use the wisdom I’ve gained to help him see he had options and that he could get back on track with is health and school.
Supporting my son through this meant we discussed the situation with him, what he felt he needed, and then speaking with the teacher in question to inform him of the situation and also to see if we could all work together to get his grades back on track. I worked with him on his homework as did his step-dad. We made sure he ate enough, and got enough sleep, although he’d already been sleeping so much that wasn’t really the issue. We also asked him if he was happy at the current school, and discovered that he was not. While the school had been great for one of his siblings, his experiences were vastly different. He hadn’t connected with people there to make friends, although he’d tried joining wrestling and football to meet people.
Sometimes in our lives, things just don’t fit. Rather than pushing through and “making the best of it”, it’s a great time to stop and pause to reflect on whether we need to remain in a situation. In our case, we researched schools with similar programs, and applied in the hopes that for his senior year, he could try something new. Such a brave choice for a young man – when he could have chosen to stick it out at the place he knew, he chose to try something else just to see what it would be like.
Another school accepted his application, and while he had a bit of trepidation about it, now that he’s a couple of weeks in, he loves it and this Momma Bear’s heart is happy. What a great lesson that when life doesn’t feel like it fits, you always have a choice in what you can do for yourself whether it’s a new way to feel, or being able to change your circumstances.
While we cannot always change the external circumstances right away in our lives, this is a good reminder to all of us that if we don’t take the chance to try something new, we won’t know if it would have turned out. Sometimes we get stuck in an old way of thinking, or ways of doing things, telling ourselves stories like we have to stay with it because others have before us, etc. We always have a choice whether it feels like it or not, and my son making a different choice for himself, whether it would work out or not, meant he gave himself the freedom to try.
I wouldn’t have become a published author, voice actor, Clairvoyant alchemist, Qigong instructor, or any of the other things I’ve done in my life if I hadn’t given myself permission to try, to see what was possible, and the ability to course correct at any time. This process has given me tremendous personal freedom.
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Wishing you all the courage to break free from what no longer serves you!
~Kellie
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