We experience many first in our lives from the time we are born. The second time we experience a similar event, it doesn’t feel the same because we have already experienced it and therefore have the wisdom and knowledge that filters our experience. And yet we often ask – when can things go back to the way they were?
Everything that happens in life changes us in some way. No matter if it was a good experience or something we deem bad, we are forever changed by our life experiences. We gained new knowledge about the world around us, new wisdom about ourselves. We know whether we’d handle a similar situation the same or different should it happen again. We grow physically and emotionally through our life experiences, and should we allow it, and become better, if possible, for any experiences that enrich our lives.
Yet another example, so often, I hear women say they want their “body back” after pregnancy, but our bodies will never be the same even if we manage to lose all of the weight and completely regulate our hormones. We’ve had an experience that changed us mentally and emotionally, not to mention physically. Our organs were squished and moved around to accommodate a growing fetus. For goodness sake, we grew a human being inside of us and then expelled it out which is no small feat even though it’s been happening for thousands of years. How do you ever go back to being the same person after that? Well, you don’t. And we shouldn’t.
What is with our fascination with the past as if everything was better there? Do we really want to remain the same? I don’t. I’d rather grow and learn and be in a constant state of wonderment about what I can do and examine how much farther I can go. And while I may reminisce about what my kids were like when they were small, or all the new things they learnt, or what they were like as a child, I do not miss who I was back then, and I love who I am now. Those experiences changed me, and I’m a better person for it.
I don’t want to long for the past as if it was so much better there. Life continually shapes and molds us if we allow it to. We don’t need to remain stagnant in past patterns of behavior or ways of being. Allowing ourselves to grow and change with our life experiences is an important part of our development as human and spiritual beings. Our humanity and our divinity are not separate. The term “we are one” is really a reference to the fact we are multi-faceted, multi-dimensional beings and that our life experiences here on Earth are designed to help us grow into more of ourselves should we allow that to happen.
No matter how old you are, you can still experience many “firsts” should you choose to continue learning and growing. Sometimes we can feel confused because we move into a new way of living our lives and we don’t have a point of reference for it. And yet, this too shall pass into the realm of the past once we have integrated it and become one with the experience.
I hope you choose to learn – always. I hope you allow life to shape you into a person who embraces the changes and releases your hold on the past. Life is lived in the present moment. And we can learn so much about ourselves no matter how old we get.
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