The other day, I saw a post with regards to building a business that encouraged people to reach out in order not to feel alone. And while I appreciate the sentiment because, hey – who enjoys travelling through life alone? Sometimes we need support and encouragement.
And yet how many of us are content to be with ourselves without the need for a tribe, group, or family to belong to? Sometimes connecting with yourself means disconnecting from others for a time. (Don’t get me wrong, I love my family and appreciate they are around, and sometimes we take advantage that they will always be there, and yet there is a delicate balance between checking in, providing support when needed and full-blown co-dependency.)
It’s been an emotional transition with all my kids moving out, and yet I find that more and more I enjoy doing my own things without someone needing something. I’m learning to find my way in life while not parenting 24/7.
Yet how many fill their days with stuff to do in order not to feel all the feels? How many are comfortable sitting with your shadow? Learning and observing the darker parts of you, allowing the shadow to shine the light on the parts of you in need of healing, getting to know who you are on the deepest of levels, not just as the nice person you want the world to see.
How many can give their day structure without needing an outside source to dictate it for them? How many are willing to get to know themselves, are willing to feel deeply all you’ve repressed or suppressed?
Sometimes going through parts of your life alone is important in order to get to know yourself through your own eyes, rather than through the eyes of someone else. I’m thankful for my tribe/family who lets me roam and wander, and provides a space for me to return when I need connection. Sometimes connecting with yourself means disconnecting from others for a time.
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